9/11 Aftermath of trauma- Family and Loved Ones; the crossroads between life and death
At the million circles conference where I presented my Kolo Informed Trauma Care, one woman in the audience was the spouse whose husband was killed in the Trade Towers. This was years later and she shared how invisible and forgotten she and her children felt. It was as if her husband who was killed and had to be killed to be one of value.
She acknowledged the survivors who made it out in order to share their stories to the world. She said they also have a place and space in memorial making, a museum and media.
But, she and the families do not have a place or the space to be visible. The only place to be visible was in a public and national memorial site so that media can photograph victims- sensationalize their pain. She asked what of the family and loved ones in the aftermath? What of their pain? What of their trauma? Where do they put their trauma narratives?
What she is talking about is how the access to their truth of their grief and collective trauma is strategically avoided. Somehow, she knew the truth of their grief is evidence materialized into cognition and can be witnessed. But, so many turn away from bearing witness voiding the medium of healing for the 9/11 families and loved one.